Dealing with anger can be a serious issue for some people. Controlling our anger is so important because we might end up doing or saying something we regret, or it might just stop us from being able to do what we need to do at the time. That’s why I have put together this list of ideas you can use to try to keep calm when your emotions start running high. Here they are:
1. Create music, draw, write
Creating music, drawing or writing can be a great way to relieve the anger and stress because you can convey your feelings into your creations, and eventually you’ll begin to forget about why you were angry and the feeling will subside.
2. Talk to someone
Don’t just hold all that anger inside, let it out by talking to someone about why you’re angry. Maybe they can help you calm down by talking to you about the situation, or maybe they can make you realise that your anger is misplaced because you misunderstood something. Just try talking to someone, whether it is about the issue or whether it’s about something else, but talking will probably help.
Sometimes when people get angry they can feel the rage building up inside their body, so exercise can help release the tension you’re feeling. Get the blood flowing, listen to some calming music and soon you’ll be feeling relaxed (and healthier).
4. Stress balls
Sometimes you just want to punch someone or something, or you want to throw something (or someone I guess), but a great way to get rid of that feeling of wanting to throw is to get a stress ball. You can use the stress ball when you’re angry by just squeezing it as hard as you can. This can help release some of the tension you’re feeling without hurting anyone or damaging anything.
5. Deep breaths
Take a few moments to just think and have some really deep breaths. Breathe in for 5 seconds, hold it for 5 seconds, then breathe out for 10 seconds. Repeat this about 10 times, or as long as it takes to calm you down.
6. Write your anger down
Write everything you are feeling onto a piece of paper or in the notes on your phone. Sometimes this can help you actually get over your anger, especially if there isn’t anyone around to talk to because it lets you get your feelings out.
7. Count to ten before you speak
If you’re getting into a heated argument with someone and you start to feel that anger inside, count to ten before you say anything because you don’t want to say something that you will regret and can’t take back. Keep the conversation calm and try to solve your differences in an orderly manner.
8. Use humour
Laughter really is the best medicine. When you get angry, watch a funny video online, look at some memes, read some jokes; do whatever it takes to make you laugh and soon you’ll be feeling great and you’ll have forgotten all about your issues.
9. Solve the issue instead of complaining
Instead of just ranting and writing your feelings down all the time, once you have got your feelings out try to come up with solutions for the issue at hand. If you can come up with a solution you’ll start to feel much better about yourself.
10. Look at calming pictures
Look at some images of some dogs, cats, tigers, or some beautiful countryside or buildings. Images of things that make you happy will, well, they’ll make you happy. When you start to feel happy again, you won’t be feeling angry.